Cope Up with Depression on Job
Posted by admin | Posted in Managing Job Stress | Posted on 01-05-2012
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They are among the most envied groups in society – those individuals who proudly declare, “I love my job!” and actually mean it. These are the dynamos of the world who have managed to make a living out of their passion. They wake up each day with renewed vigor, a sense of purpose, and the intention to accomplish bigger and better things than they did the day before.
Then there is everyone else.
Many more people in the world have a “day job” that they get paid to do within an eight- to ten-hour time span each day but which doesn’t exactly make their toes curl, even though they may be quite good at it. This is not only the case with creative people – aspiring actors and actresses, writers, artists and musicians – but also with people who have never discovered what they are truly passionate about in life. They go through the motions each day of hitting the snooze button three or more times, counting down the hours until lunch time and the end of the work day, and living for the weekend and major holidays.
If this sounds like you, you may be experiencing “Career Depression Syndrome.” According to an article by CNN.com entitled, “Signs You’re Stuck in a Dead-End Job”, there are a number of symptoms of Career Depression Syndrome, or CDS, including decreased motivation, withdrawal from coworkers, feelings that one is not valued for their contributions at work and a noticeable change in temperament. Causes mentioned in the article include stress, burnout, or plain old unhappiness with one’s job.
If you recognize several of these symptoms in yourself, the last thing you want to do is ignore them, as CDS may begin to affect not only your mental and physical well-being over time but also your most intimate and valued relationships. Change cannot take place until you acknowledge that there is a need for it. There are several steps that you can take towards conquering CDS:
1. Cease self-defeating rationalizations. This particularly applies to individuals who choose to play it safe and reduce their talents and interests to mere hobbies or part-time work in the name of “job security”. This is fine if you’re happy pursuing your passion on the side, but if you habitually change jobs after several months because you are frustrated or unfulfilled, it might be time for a paradigm shift.
In my current line of work, I meet with countless college students who have shied away from majors that reflect their true interests because they have developed the notion that earning a degree in their chosen major will result in difficulty finding a job or making a good salary. Some students are influenced by well-meaning family members or friends who attempt to steer them in a more “practical” direction. What these students often fail to realize is that they are the ones who will have to spend each day dealing with the consequences of a poor career choice, not their parents or friends.
Then there are individuals who complain that because they are married, have children, or have a ton of bills to pay, they must stay in a job they hate in order to support their families. If this sounds like you, this attitude of hopelessness will only thwart your progress toward a happier life. While you may have to endure a job for a period of time until your circumstances improve, you do not have to give yourself the life sentence of an unfulfilling career. Positive change is always possible – unless you manage to convince yourself that it’s not.
2. Take a personality test. Your career depression may or may not be the cause of common issues such as work overload, an overbearing supervisor or a less-than-desirable salary. You may in fact be in a position that doesn’t fit well with your personality.
For example, if you are a “people person” – the quintessential extrovert who loves to connect with others as often as possible – you may be experiencing CDS because you’re stuck in an office somewhere, shut off from the rest of the world, with limited opportunities to engage in meaningful exchange. Likewise, if you are more of an introvert who needs ample time for quiet reflection and planning, a fast-paced customer service job is probably not your cup of tea.
There are many personality assessments that you can complete online. One of my favorite websites for these is http://www.keirsey.com. This site was developed by David Keirsey, a renowned psychologist who has done extensive research on the topics of personality and temperament. On this website, you can complete several quick and easy assessments that will help shed light on different aspects of your personality and how they relate to careers as well as other important areas of your life.
3. Shift your priorities. My husband and I used to long for the American Dream – the big house, luxury automobiles and other tangibles that are often symbols of success in our society. Once we acquired these things however, we had to work longer hours just to keep them, which cut into our quality of life. I had limited time and energy and zero motivation to write, which is one of my greatest passions. I was left with a huge void that no amount of money could fill, and each day at work I felt as though I was just going through the motions.
Not long ago, my husband and I began dialoguing about the things that matter most to us in life. Not in any one of our conversations did material things come up. Instead, we talked about how we’d like to have more time together, more time to pursue our personal interests and significantly less stress in our lives. We recently made a commitment to “downsize” our lifestyles so that we can focus on the things that are most important to us. For us, downsizing means paying off or selling those things that are weighing us down and shifting our focus to our overall quality of life.
4. Set small, realistic goals. It can be a bit overwhelming to set a goal of finding a wonderful, exciting job within a specified period of time. Instead, why not set smaller, more realistic goals for yourself? For instance, you may say to yourself, “this week I’m going to update my resume,” or “this month I’m going to begin searching the Internet for job opportunities.” Those are goals that you can bring to fruition. You cannot, however guarantee that the perfect job will come along in January or that you will achieve a promotion this year.
It is also important to always be working toward a goal. Working hard for week or month and then wallowing in six months of stagnation is counterproductive. If you didn’t find that exciting new job last month on the Internet, continue to search but add another element to the equation. You may want to seek career counseling or utlize some additional job search tools.
5. Surround yourself with positive people who support you. Some people are narrow thinkers. They may not see the same possibilities that you see in life, and may therefore respond negatively when you share your new goals with them. “Why would you want to do that?” they might say. “You have a decent job; at least you’re employed.” And yes, employment is definitely a good thing. But ideally you will strive for more in life than to have just any job.
Also be selective when trying to reach out to people who have already achieved success in your desired career. I have learned the hard way that not everyone who has made it to the top of the career ladder is willing to show others how to get there. While it may be a good idea to seek advice from some individuals who have accomplished that which you desire to achieve, you may find that your greatest support and inspiration comes from individuals who are who are either working toward the same goals as you or who are not directly connected to your field of interest.
6. Visualize success. While opportunities have been presented to me in life that I did not expect, I cannot think of very many instances where I achieved success without first visualizing myself being a success. If you go through life hoping for a better job or career but not actually being able to see yourself doing it, you probably won’t take the necessary steps or even risks to get there.
I have never been one to regularly use self-affirmations, but some people who use these on a daily basis have found them to be extremely helpful in reducing negative thinking and creating a vision of success for their lives. I recently discovered a link to a helpful website about using self-affirmations: http://www.coping.org/growth/affirm.htm. If affirmations do not work for you however, you can experiment with other strategies until you find one that works for you.
7. Most importantly, don’t give up! Perseverance is a major key to success. There are very few overnight sensations in this world and many of those people who do manage to reach the pinnacle of their careers very quickly find that they have nowhere to go but down. Find joy in your journey rather than just fixating on where you ultimately want to end up, and you will be more likely to persevere.
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